Time for a New Year Detox?


Time for a New Year Detox?

Christmas and New Year tend to be portrayed as a time for celebrations, festivities and fun times with friends and family.  But for many the reality can feel anything but fun.

Toxic relationships and negative thoughts can leave us feeling painfully unhappy and whittle away at our self-esteem.

So now that the holidays are over, maybe it is time for a detox?

My good old Mum used to say it was ‘out with the old and in with the new’.

The start of a brand new year is a perfect time to have a clear out and get rid of anything toxic that we’ve been hanging on to that isn’t serving us well.

By the way, I’m not talking about a nutritional detox here.  If you’ve over indulged on prosecco and chocolates over the holidays don’t worry, you have kidneys and a liver that can do a pretty good job of that for you so just get back to what you were doing before and you’ll be back on track in no time!

No, I’m talking about the other toxic parts of your life that you have to filter out consciously.

Like people maybe.

We have a fear of letting go even if we know that someone makes us feel less than we deserve to feel.

But if you are hanging on to toxic people, for your own sake, it’s time to get rid of them.

You’ll know who these people are.  They’re the ones who:

constantly criticise, belittle and snipe at us.

Time to get rid.

mask their criticism as thinly veiled advice.

Time to get rid.

make passive aggressive comments constantly.

Time to get rid.

take advantage, and take more than they ever give.

Time to get rid.

get off on putting you down in order to make themselves feel big.

Time to get rid.

Is it easy to remove toxic people from your life?

Sometimes, sometimes not.

But the easy route isn’t always the best.

When I walked away from my first marriage at 26 years old, with a 1 year old and no money or family around me it was not an easy decision, but it was the right one.

Of course, it doesn’t all have to be quite so extreme.  For example, it’s far easier to unfollow someone on social media or choose not to socialise with a particular person.

But what if you HAVE to see someone?

Maybe it’s a boss or a work colleague, or even a family member such as your mum?

Well there are always choices and decisions to be made.

You could change jobs, ask for a transfer, speak to the other person to see if there’s a way to change the situation or enforce some non-negotiables into your relationship – on your terms!

But, if you genuinely can’t change the situation then it’s time to detox the mind!

If you can’t control the situation then you have to learn to be in control of your response to it.

As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “no one can make you feel inferior without your permission”.

When toxic thoughts creep in, such as “I’m stuck with this” or “I don’t deserve better”, “I’ve made my bed so I guess I have to lie in it” or “I couldn’t cope on my own”, in fact, any number of other BS rubbish we tell ourselves, it’s time for a mental detox.

It may scare you…. a lot!

You may be fearful of what you will have to go through and yes,  it might be painful but there is nothing you can’t cope with.

You are strong enough to deal with anything and anyone.

Nothing is set in stone and there’s nothing in life that can’t be altered.

You are worthy of being happy, loved and respected.

You do deserve to be your true self, and you do deserve to stand tall in your own power.

Your opinion is as valid as anyone else’s and your life is yours to live your way.

You are pretty enough, smart enough, talented enough, good enough, lovable enough, strong enough, brave enough and sexy enough already –  you need nobody else to validate this for you.

When we clear toxic people from our lives we create the space for better ones to step in to the gap they leave.

When we refuse to harbour toxic thoughts we allow space for healthier, happier, calmer and more empowering one’s to fill the gap.

So, it’s out with the old and in with the new.

And here’s to a Happy New You.


Bev Thorogood is a certified nutritionist and health coach specialising in helping women navigate their way through menopause and beyond.   With a strong focus on mindset she offers personal and group coaching to help women remove the blocks that stop them from living their best midlife.

If you’re looking for help to move you towards a better midlife book a FREE breakthrough call – it might just change your life!


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